I am blessed to have three little boys that are absolute angels (at least in my eyes) that I love more than life itself. My middle son is right in the middle of his ‘terrible-twos’ phase and the way he is acting reminds of a lot of the job-seekers I work with on a daily basis.
His response to anything that he doesn’t want to do, even if it is in his best interest is always “I don’t want to.” Whenever I ask many job-seekers why they are not networking and doing the things that EVERYONE says they should be doing they come up with a million excuses that always lead back to ‘not wanting to.’
He only thinks of himself and what will make him happy. Many job-seekers only take into account what they want and really ignore their families needs during their time of transition. Most develop the inability to go out and work a job that is ‘beneath’ them even though the extra money could go a long way in helping their family out.
He has a one track mind and it cannot be changed. A good number of the job-seekers I speak with refuse to think outside the box and look at things in a different way when it comes to finding their next opportunity and will only accept a perfect role at a perfect company.
He asks a question to both my wife and I (and sometimes others) until he gets the answer he wants. I have actually had job-seekers ask my thoughts on the search process and when I tell them something different than what the want to hear (that networking works) they have actually told me they would just go ask someone else (it has happened multiple times).
He doesn’t like to share. One of the biggest problems I see with people who are looking for work is that they take, take, take, and then take some more and never offer to return. For some ideas on helping others and how it can benefit your job-search read our previous posting on the Fred Rogers Approach to searching for work.
Depending on his mood he will not accept any help at all on anything. You need some help in your job-search from your network and their network. If you don’t ask, they will not be able to assist you.
Again, depending on his mood he is reliant on someone else for everything. Your job-search is a YOU project. You cannot expect anyone else to do it for you.
I hope that you don’t fall into any of the traps listed above but if you do you better ‘grow up’ really quick if you want to attract real attention for your next opportunity.
Until next time – good hunting and good luck!